I guess there must be something in the air lately, because this past week I’ve gotten several hate messages (of course all anonymously) on my curious cat profile. If you don’t know what curious cat is, it’s an app that lets people submit anonymous confessions or questions they have for you.
You would think they would be positive or funny questions, and although I have gotten several of those, 90% of my messages are negative hate about my appearance, my personality, and my relationships.
I know what you are thinking “If you don’t care about these messages, why address it? Why respond? Why write about it?” or you are thinking “LOL I’m one of those people and nothing you say, write or do will change my thought on who you are. You’re ugly and have a big nose and you are an awful human being.”
Quite frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn. 💪🏼
Writing a post about this, I hope to help others that receive messages of negativity and use my attitude and apply it to their own haters. Having thick skin takes time, practice, energy and love….self-love, a lot of self-love. Hell, I’m still working on having retaining the thick skin that I created. Some days are hard, most days are easy as I feel that I mastered keeping my attitude positive.
I was thinking of taking each negative message and addressing it individually, but that would honestly take 3 or 4 days as so many pour in. A lot of my readers that also follow me on Twitter see them, but I’m telling you right now that I delete a lot of them that are more vulgar. This is probably surprising if you are joining me from the Twitter family (HeYyYyYyY), but it’s true. I don’t post a lot of the messages just because I don’t want anyone else reading the colorful things people come up with about my looks, personality and overall self.
The other day, I had tweeted something about loving confrontation, and that’s still the case even when it’s negative confrontation. It’s just that simple. I’m 23 years old and I’m adult, if you don’t like me, that’s fine. At this stage in my life, I have no business begging for people to like me or be my friend.
With that being said, I have a couple ideas of the people writing these messages, and I’ll just let them go ahead and keep on writing. I’m gonna keep writing posts, so why shouldn’t they? I’ve never been an expert on politics but I’m aware on the amendment of free speech.
So to my haters – 🖐🏼 Hi, Thank you for giving me a view on this blog post, my instagram, my twitter and my website. All you are doing is boosting my insight and engagement which helps me when I observe my website and social medias weekly. Please go ahead and continue to be a keyboard warrior and let me know all these things that I’m already aware of: my big nose (got really creative there), the redness in my face, my stretch marks, cellulite, etc. I appreciate you being an extra mirror ;). All you do is motivate me to keep working hard, and be a ‘wannabe model’, when this is a hobby I really enjoy. It makes me feel great, I’ve been told I’m not bad at it, and it’s a good time creating art with people. I appreciate all you.
To my friends – I love you, I love you, I love you. 💋! Don’t get upset and feel like these things are bringing me down, all they are doing is pushing me up more and more towards success. I’ve reached success and I will continue to reach more successes in my life. Y’all are amazing.
To anyone feeling sad – Do not give them the power to control you and your emotions. A lot of people will critique you in life, but make sure they have the right credentials to critique you in the first place. Negative messages from anonymous people do not have the credentials. Pay them no mind. You keep doing you.